Many people find it difficult to make friends, especially as they get older or move to a new city. Here, we will share tips and strategies and focus on making new friends. We’re going to talk about meeting new people and breaking the ice so you can have great conversations, which will take those casual acquaintances and casual friendships and turn them into more profound, more meaningful friendships. Before we go further, please remember that making friends is about giving more than receiving, putting in an effort to help other people. Now let’s move on to the tips starting with tip number one:
1. Go out and do active things
This tip stems from a question: Where do you go to meet people who could become your friends?
Most people only made friends by proximity, whether in their neighborhood when they were kids or in their college dorm. But if you want to meet friends who do cool things which are active, you have to go to where active things are happening. You can’t just sit around in your room waiting for somebody to walk in and say, “Hey, dude, you want to play Ultimate Frisbee?” No, you need to look around for a campus activities directory or a meetup group in your city that meets for the frisbee. Show up, and you’re going to start meeting people who are into that activity. Now, if you’re wondering how to find these sorts of activities, we do have a few suggestions for you. You may look into your local community- go to a gym that’s just a few blocks away from your apartment, see bulletin boards with advertisements for intramural sports, and other groups that you could quickly join.
2. Don’t be afraid to try new things
While you’re tempted to look at online meetups and Facebook and only see things you’re already into but remember, your brain is very good at adapting, and you don’t know what you’re going to love until you try it. So try something new. For example, try out rock climbing and mountain biking for the first time. You’ll find that they’re enjoyable. Actively try to do new things all the time because you’re probably going to like them. And even if you don’t, you can just move on to something else.
3. Make time for your existing friends
When people get to be adults, they forget that proximity-based friendships can be perfect. They’re only looking for the meetups, for people who share their current interests, but the thing about proximity-based friendships is that these are friendships with people who might expand your horizons because they like different things than what you desire. Keep in mind that you don’t have to have the same interests to be friends with somebody.
4. Use the three-second rule
If you happen to be invited to an event and you see somebody you want to talk to, decide within 3 seconds whether or not you’re going to walk up and strike up a conversation. If you wait or think any longer than that, your brain is going to start concocting all sorts of reasons why you shouldn’t, right? You’re going to think they look busy, or you’re going to look silly, and then you’re going to convince and talk yourself out of doing it. So instead, within the first three seconds, tell yourself either Yes, I’m going to walk up and talk to that person, or no, I’m going to walk away and then act on it.
5. Don’t be afraid to venture out on your own to gain new experiences
Take the wine tasting or cookery lesson you’ve been thinking about. Eat alone at that restaurant’s bar that you’ve been longing to experience. Visit a museum or attend a performance. Some used to work in a bar and would see individuals come in alone night after night for a drink or meal. Most of those people had gotten friendly with the others surrounding them by the end of the evening. There’s a good chance you’ll meet someone else who is lonely, or you’ll start chatting up a whole group of potential new pals.
People who accomplish things alone exude confidence, and who doesn’t want to be friends with someone who exudes confidence?
Remember, the only thing you lose if you try something out and end up not liking it is an afternoon worth your time, which isn’t that bad price to pay for stepping up. Try these tips out and stay cute and friendly!